I’d Like the Job, Thank You
Don’t let the lack of basic manners sabotage your interview.
by Rite Gworek

It used to be that children were taught manners by their parents, or even academies and finishing schools. But times have changed, and some of these lessons have slipped from the “norm” because the situations never present themselves.

But it’s never too late to learn good manners. In the next two columns, we’ll take a look at proper manners – beginning with the interview. Next month we’ll examine table manners, which are sometimes required for follow-up interviews.

Interview Protocol: The handshake
Let’s look at protocol during the interviewing process. The interviewer will come out to greet you and extend their hand. You should have a nice firm handshake. Follow their lead. If they shake hands with a continuous up and down motion, you should continue that motion until the interviewer stops. If they stop just after you engage, then you stop. If you are nervous and have sweaty palms, you should carry a handkerchief in your pocket so you can squeeze your hand on it just before you shake hands.

When and How to Sit
The interviewer will then escort you to their office. They may ask you to have a seat. Say “thank you” and then wait for the interviewer to sit down before you do. How should you sit? If you are a woman, cross your legs at the ankle and sit erect in the chair. You may choose to cross your hands in your lap. A man can cross his legs at the knees or place both feet on the ground. Try to be as relaxed as you can. Surveys show that a high percentage of people who are not really interested in the job they are interviewing for get an offer. Why? Because they were relaxed and answered the questions with confidence. Practice by conducting mock interviews. Try your best not to fidget or jingle things in your pockets.

Don’t be a Space Invader
Do not invade the interviewer’s space by placing your briefcase on their desk. Place it in your lap to open it and remove the contents. Then place it on the floor next to you. It would be best for you to carry a portfolio instead, if that is appropriate for the items you need. Take a high-quality pen to take notes. When the interview has concluded, wait for the interviewer to stand before you get up. Thank them for their time and shake hands.